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up youtube at your boy king cobra back out of another video i got a sweet dream combo for all the dads out there on father's day jack ganniel's tenancy honey and and and some brisk lemon ice tea so smithraka whiskey sour with like whiskey tea kind of combo outro and If you don't have a mom in your life, you know, maybe I'll help your dad with some chances, you know what I'm saying? One of my ass trays broke. It's the one that used to poke incense into. I've had this bowl for ages and like, it broke. So I want to try to fix it, maybe keep it at the ceremony bowl. Luckily I have a backup ready to go. No, it's good to have a backup. No, I made that bullet Miss Kennell hands art class. So I'm kind of bummed out there to fucking broke. But like, what do you do? My plushies are being washed. That's why you don't see my stuff animals on my share. That was a drink combo taste. Let's find out. Oh, there's this fucking tasty. I've never made that little stuff. I do have a couple of backup ass trays that I can use. So I'm not too worried about it. But one in particular, I don't use because it was a gift. It's an antique ass tray. You know how that goes. No, when my great grandparents passed away, they gave me an antique lighter and some really cool antique ass trays. And yeah. So hopefully I have an amazing father's day. In a shout out to my dad, he's pretty freaking awesome. I wouldn't trade my dad for the world. I know so that's me and my dad butt heads, but I love my dad. You know, and I would sacrifice this house to save him. Like my dad royally saved my ass by me this house. And because he's the landlord, I can't get kicked out. And that really pisses off my YouTube trolls. And then they love to give me shit about it too. They're like, oh, your daddy's blah, blah, blah, blah. I'm like, you're just mad because your dad won't buy you a house. But why do women refuse to apologize the hidden truth? I saw this video on YouTube the other day on the recommendation. And I gave it a like because it would make for a really great video response. So we got like two packs of these marble southern cuts, a little bit of vodka, a little bit of whiskey, we're set. Just chilling out on Sunday. I'm going to say something that's going to piss off a lot of people out there. And I don't care because I think there's some really talk pissing off people on the internet. I'm going to do it now. Some good advice floating around about relationships that's actually destroying. Men's chances of getting genuinely pissed off. And then, actually destroying men's chances of getting genuine respect and connection from women. Okay, I want to stop you right there. Classic co-video response. Stop giving a shit if people respect you. Stop making it about gender. Do your thing. If you're a good person, you don't go out of your way to treat people like shit. And you quit giving a fuck about what people think about you. And treat others the way you want to be treated. Watch what happens. These four things will set you through the stratosphere of human interaction. Here's what happened to me. I'm 40 years old. And I think I can count on one hand the number of real apologies I've received from women in my life. And that doesn't mean I've only dated saints. It means women seem to find it incredibly hard to apologize for bad behavior. Even when they're clearly in the wrong. Now, most people... You mean women don't want to get accountability for their shitty actions? No. Men do it too, it's to be fair. Relationship coaches will tell you this is just how women are. They'll give you some nonsense about love languages and how women show sorry differently. But I've discovered something that completely flips this conventional wisdom on its head. And it's based on actual psychology. Not feel good relationship, Advo. I find human psychology and gender psychology to be very fascinating but also very frustrating. Ice, you probably want to know what that is. Well, I've got three major misconceptions that men have about why women don't apologize. And I'm not just going to leave you hanging there. I'm going to show you exactly what's really happening in the female mind during conflicts. Why their strategy is actually make perfect evolutionary sense. And most importantly... Up seconds out everyone believe me evolution for the way humans treat each other. That's all I'm going to say on that. Understanding this can completely transform your relationships. Because here's the thing. When you understand why women avoid apologies, you realize they're not being stubborn or manipulative. They're actually trying to solve what they see as... That's part of the reason. This guy takes a very like nuanced approach to... Not crapping on men, not crapping on women, just kind of if you know... The real problem. And once you get this, everything changes. So let's start with the first misconception. And this one's going to surprise you. Today we're diving deep into one of the most frustrating dynamics in male female relationships. The most frustrating dynamic of male versus female relationships is the hypocrisy. Women and men are being fed these toxic wise. Because older women and older men have had the worst luck with dating. And they treat each other like shit. And they're jealous the younger generations get to some. So they spread toxic wise. The brain wants you. So you become just like them in the future. Fuck and you take. Why women seem allergic to giving genuine apologies? Why their alternative strategies feel so unsatisfying to men? And what? The whole video is basically because women are constantly sitting sorry. And therefore the meaning of the word sorry loses its general appeal. And the reason why women apparently have a hard time is because of the lack of... The whole video is basically because women are constantly sitting sorry. And therefore the meaning of the word sorry loses its general appeal. I have a hard time apologizing, because of that. And because. Some on godly reason when it comes to problem solving. Men want to solve the problem at its core value. Like if you're working on your car. You'll tinger with it trying to get it. And then you figured out the problem. And then you get fixed women want to solve the problem from an emotional perspective. And they're afraid of men's anger and they're basically afraid of losing what a man provides And nobody likes to admit when they're wrong and as a result Her way of saying sorry is sex The occasional food, you know, making you a sandwich etc. Which Those are nice, but when it comes down to as men want to hear sorry and they know why don't you know I'm saying like I just watched the video Jesus fucking Christ This reveals about fundamental differences in how the sexes approach conflict Responsibility and emotional repair By the end of this exploration you'll understand why women use sex, food, distraction and time as apology substitutes Why these strategies? I don't want apology substitutes You know I don't To be in my other half for finding other I'm gonna talk about it like I'm mature adults I don't want her holding on to her anger and then saving what whatever she's pissed off about And then I see what you start finding about something else completely different two weeks later She brings that up and it has nothing to do with the fights Remember YouTube we have discussed this to great lengths the four things women use To win arguments when they know they're losing and they know they're in the wrong Step number one they use words they use their words like why you being mean to me stop it You're not listening why you yelling you're being so mean Well, that doesn't work They bring up shit that they're pissed off about in previous fights that they that they did not discuss in those previous fights And when that doesn't work They threatened to withhold sex and when that doesn't work They bring up shit that's you're insecure about maybe you know They see oh you got a small dick, you know, maybe you fire back with I knew you complaining well I knew you complaining when I was railing you out last night kind of thing, you know, and when that doesn't work Then you know what I'm saying And how can you avoid a fight with your woman good communication is more important than good sex You can defuse the situation by throwing her psychology back in her face And using a sense of humor and stick into your guns to win the argument and when she gets so fucking mad She actually smacks you You can just walk away from that fight knowing you won Because when women are losing an argument they know I have to get if they get you so fucking mad you smack them or you call them a cunt Now you're in the wrong because no matter what they did everything you did trumps what they did So now you're in this fucking room, you know, it's like Bill Burr said 100% You're still going What happens I have this fight in the palm of my hands Now I'm stuck without sat for two weeks and doing dishes fuck this You know like I'm done six years without getting late so like sex ain't shit When you realize that matter the prize because we're the providers If she won't give you sex that's her problem. Well, not yours There are any woman can give you sex so when women try to use that as leverage To navigate the relationship. It's laughable It's like well, I can't just do it myself get a pocket pussy jack one off You know what I'm saying like come on man and women are more than just sex So why the fuck do they insist on weaponizing it when it's convenient for them They're throwing the fits because You know society only sees you as a sex object and women are overly sexualized throughout society. That's kind of That's kind of shit to be honest This actually makes psychological sense from an evolutionary perspective and most importantly How understanding these differences can transform your relationships and your expectations I've spent years studying gender psychology Attachment theory and conflict resolution patterns and what I'm about to reveal goes far deeper than simple communicate Asian differences But first let me share a statistic that might shock you Research shows that women apologize significantly more often than men in daily interactions For bumping into people for speaking up in meetings for taking up space Yet when it comes to genuine wrongdoing and intimate relationships the pattern completely reverses This isn't just about hurt feelings or communication styles The inability to give and receive authentic apologies is destroying relationships Creating resentment and perpetuating cycle I think the thing if it is you to it has nothing to do with gender If you're constantly saying sorry for everything that you don't have to apologize for In the word kind of loses its meaning You know like the wills from like foster homes from imaginary friends He's constantly going. I'm sorry, but I'm sorry, but you know, I'm saying And you should not have to apologize for things that you have no control over Let me give you an example The way white straight heterosis normative men Like myself in the past. I've treated everyone. I'm not responsible for that Like I'm sorry that blacks women minorities and lgb etc. I have to go through all this crap I feel sorry for them in that aspect But I can't control the past all I can do is control how I treat people and how I react to the Shit, I can't control it anyone else or their thing, you know You can't control what other people do all you can do is control how you react to other people and how you treat others So the best way to do this is to be a good person and treat others with respect Even if they don't give it to you and when people are being jerks to you fucking just Fuck with them right back, you know laughing their face. Throw it back in their face, you know, I'm saying like Mr. Kahn you fucking names Or insulting you and it's like do you like Harry Potter or why do you ask because your mother's a horror crox Well, that's not very appropriate You Is of unresolved conflict that poison emotional intimacy Understanding why this happens what to do about it might be the key to breaking through the most frustrating patterns in your relationships Here's the paradox that confuses men The same women who apologize for existing in public spaces become mysteriously unable to apologize when they've actually done something wrong Watch any woman navigate a crowded coffee shop and you'll hear sorry at least five times Sorry for being in line sorry for asking a question sorry for existing in someone else There's peripheral vision Women are socialized for a childhood to apologize preemptively constantly reflexively This is sorry so often that it becomes Okay, if women are socialized from a young age to be apologetic then I guess that makes men Socialized to be dominant and aggressive and to have no emotions You know what I'm saying like if you got you know, this is this is why like 100% why why men don't want to listen to women nag and complain It's because men are allowed Chick-a-plane without being told they're just mansplaining and women are allowed to complain without being told they're just nagging and I think If you're in a healthy romantic relationship You should go to talk to your partner about why you're having a fucking bad day And then and then when you get to just unloading your shits So how is your fucking day and then they just they unload their shit and then you talk about it and it's like okay, you know You know The meaningless white noise But then comes the moment when a genuine apology is warranted when she's crossed a boundary hurt someone she cares about We're behaved in a way that caused real harm And suddenly those two simple words become impossible to utter The women who apologizes for breathing too loudly in public cannot bring herself to say I'm sorry when she's genuinely in the wrong Who the fuck apologizes for breathing too loud in public? I get you like super autistic and like you have like sensory issues So if you're like in a crowded area with lots of people and like or like I get that to a point but outside of that You know what I'm saying This creates a maddening cognitive dissonance for men They witnessed the constant stream of unnecessary apologies and think She obviously knows how to apologize. She does it all day long So why won't she apologize to me when it actually matters? He answer lies in understanding the different functions these apologies serve The public apologies the sorry for taking up space aren't really apologies at all They're social lubricant designed to prevent conflict rather than resolve it And that's what I'm saying if you're trying to prevent conflict rather than resolve it You know, I'm saying like you're not gonna It's always gonna be there. So it's just like a way to resolve it and prevent it at the same time You prevent it and then if you have issues you maturely resolve it Basic human 101 dude The preemptive strikes against potential confrontation Ways of signaling non-threatening intent in a world that often punishes women for being assertive He's reflexive of a college. I mean that's fair women who are assertive or seen as bitchy and entitled and men who are assertive or seen as cocky and showpanistic and you know how that goes Gays cost nothing because they acknowledge no real wrongdoing The woman saying sorry for walking in front of someone isn't admitting fault She's performing a socially ritual that maintains harmony without admitting actually I'm just saying hey sorry, you know, it's basic human politeness It doesn't mean you know I'm saying this is why this video frustrated me because it's like There's a big difference between just being polite And being like okay, I get you trying to maintain social harmony man versus like okay, admitting that you fucked up Men do it too to a point nobody wants to admit when they're wrong and that's just how it is The responsibility But genuine apologies and intimate relationships require something entirely different The admission of actual fault the acknowledgement of harm caused and the implicit promise to change behavior This type of apology has real psychological and social costs that the reflexive sorry doesn't carry From an evolutionary perspective admitting fault to a mate historically carried serious risks For women who often dependent on male protection and resources acknowledging wrongdoing could potentially trigger abandonment or withdrawal of support So women are constantly reliant on a man's protection and what he provides her saying sorry might make him so mad. He's like nope. I don't want to deal with this crap And I get that to a point but like that was Evolution and all that that was like the first human beings to exist You know, I'm saying times have changed I can't just drag a woman by her hair into my house Club around the head and then fuck the shit out of her Like some like disgusting the end of all caveman, you know what I'm saying? The reflexive sorry evolved as a way to prevent conflicts from starting While the genuine apology creates vulnerability that evolution hasn't necessarily prepared women to embrace This explains what you're saying sorry because you know I'm people to fucking hate you But then you won't say sorry when it counts because it makes you vulnerable And you might lose a man's protection I think it is a good man and he cares about you You'll work through it Why women can simultaneously be chronic over apologizers and apology avoiders Yeah, how do you how do you seriously this is what it means is me about women if this video is genuinely sincere and true How can you be chronically over apologizers and at the same time have a problem with Apologizing when you actually need to that that doesn't make sense You Using the words or for completely different purposes one to prevent conflict one to resolve it and these purposes and that's just it Sometimes sorry doesn't cut the cheese you know what I'm saying If you're using the word sorry to avoid conflict and to resolve it Then I don't see a problem with it But if you can't see sorry when ash reparts Shots the fuck up Syria wasn't talking to you stupid bitch I hate one fucking Siri does that shit I didn't say hey followed by her name so therefore I don't oh my god. I hate when Siri does that Go and just turn the phone off No, I did I fucking hate when Siri does that I didn't say hey followed by Siri then I don't need her assistance Okay, Siri can you suck my dick I won't respond to that Hey Siri why you such a bitch? I won't respond to that To require entirely different psychological mechanisms Men who typically apologize less frequently but more meaningfully Interpreting the constant public apologies as evidence that women understand the value and mechanics of a Apologies, but don't realize that these public performances actually make it harder for women to give genuine apologies when they matter Because the word has been stripped of its meaning through overuse And that's just it. He's absolutely correct the word sorry gets stripped of his meaning when it's overused You should constantly apologizing for shit. You don't have to apologize for Because you don't want people to think you're a rude bitch, you know what I'm saying like I get that to a point But You know if it being father's day I raised my glass to my dad to all the awesome dads out there cheers And if you're looking for a last minute father's day gift Check out tactical soap coupon code king cobra no longer works But I'm sure they might give you a code if you uh Check out the websites the link is in the description box below And I if you use my affiliate link I do make money off of it not much But it's it's a little bit, you know a couple cents here and there it adds up, you know And I appreciate Scott car. 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Yeah You lose your shit you're like oh my god, he's such a pig blah blah blah So again when it comes to my gender relation rants like I do I've often said if it were gender reversed You would hate it and If it's wrong for women to do what should be wrong for men to do too vice versa Understanding this paradox is the first step to him because the under-appologize for everything that they shouldn't apologize for so when it comes to actual accountability They cave bridging the communication gap between the sexes When conflict arises in relationships men and women aren't just disagreeing about solutions They're disagreeing about what the actual problem is From a man's perspective relationship problems follow a logical sequence behavior causes consequences She did something wrong which caused him to fill up set and the solution is acknowledgement of the wrongdoing plus To commitment to change the behavior which that's pretty fucking straightforward from a man's perspective Her behavior caused a consequence that caused the consequence caused him to be upset And all he wants is in a decent sincere apology and a commitment to change the behavior of the cause the infraction in the first place Now I get ready for this because when you see why the fox she doesn't want to apologize It's gonna make your brain hurt It's a straightforward cause and effect framework that mirrors how men approach problems in most areas of life That's pretty much it basic male logic Okay, this is why it's broken so we're gonna do the fix it So we need to fix it. How do you get the stuff to fix it? You know I'm saying But women often operate from a completely different problem definition framework From her perspective the issue isn't the behavior that caused the upset. It's the upset itself The man's anger hurt feelings become the problem to be solved Not okay, so what? So for her so that that's like saying if she cheated on you with your boss and sucked his dick The problem for her is not that she's a cheating whore But the fact that you're upset over it so because because you're upset over it now she has to figure out how to make you less upset over it And are my like well Maybe you shouldn't cheat on your other half The consequence of some prior action This might seem logical to men But it actually has some validity when you think about it from a systems perspective In legal terms a breach of contract by itself isn't actionable unless you can prove damages No harm no foul from this viewpoint the behavior is only a problem because it created emotional harm So if you can eliminate the emotional harm you've solved the problem. Okay, so You're telling me that this is if this is how women think that then we're worried about the emotional aspect of it So to solve the emotional aspect of it logically You would think apologize for cheating And sucking your bosses dick behind your back You know i'm saying and cheating on you as an adult kind of thing You want to resolve the problem emotionally then just own up to your shit and apologize And the reason why women can't apologize sincerely is because they're so used to like Apologize I think for everything else when it doesn't matter And then after a whole reasoning for Going to solve the problem is because they want to solve the emotional aspect if they will now the man's upset They want to fix that so if you want to fix that the solution is simple. Just say you're sorry and don't do it again Ha Let me ask you this ladies if a man cheated on you with your female boss And They're like why you upset instead of just apologizing for it and offering The idea of like couples counseling and maybe being like I want to work on myself and Owning owning their shit, you know instead they didn't apologize for it because They it made them feel insecure like they're gonna lose the sex that you give them and that you know They don't want to mix fault in themselves because that makes them feel weak kind of thing If if the solution in these women is to solve the problem emotionally Then you need to value a man's emotions as much as he values years. That's the key to This fundamental difference in problem perception leads to completely different solution strategies Then seek acknowledgement and behavioral change because they see the behavior as the root cause and that's the thing of it That is so basic how life works You see the problem as Okay, someone like like I said, okay, we'll circle back home. Let me only sip this real quick I have some Tennessee honey jack Daniels This stuff is delicious This is for 21 and up Jack Daniels is my favorite whiskey company of all time. That's the sound right there Oh, good time and I have that mixed but the splash of this brisk lemon tea Do like a honey and tea whiskey sour kind of thing and it's not should not have bad Ah This is why women can be so frustrating sometimes if what are you saying is true because it's like You cheated on your your husband or boyfriend's boss I was gonna be saying sorry and working on your shit and like okay, so the problem is You cheated On your boyfriend and the consequences is upset because you went behind his back And so her solution is because he's upset you got to address the emotional aspect of it rather than just say I'm sorry. I want you to gain or just break up with the person, you know That's just fucking Christ. Oh, you're one to talk and you just cheat on your first girlfriend Yeah, I did cheat on my first girlfriend and I regret it I got a big old helping dose of karma for it too Going six years without sex and they want to finally got a girlfriend after that six-year dry spell She was the fucking worst human being on the planet two days And I haven't cheated since then over four like I haven't cheated since I gave Stephanie And I mean I refuse to cheat ever again because I rewind a good relationship And I got you know I firmly believe the six-year dry spell followed by Just like a boy. Oh, it was my karma for the way I acted And it's like I can't take back what I did all I can do is learn from my mistakes And that's just it. Okay, the behavior is the root cause You know if I were to for example If I were to fucking sit here and like take my my big liar and burn my hand with it You know I go why does my hand hurts? Well, what's the root cause of it because you were stupid enough to burn your hand with a lighter You know one one thing well if that hurts quit doing it, you know, that's just You know, I'm saying So like no offense to women, but if you want to solve the problem on an emotional level Just say you're sorry and don't do it again, you know I Stop apologizing for shit. That's not your fault Women seek emotional repair because they see the emotional state as the actual problem This is oh wait, so you're telling me that women seek emotional repair because they see the emotions it causes as the problem other than the problem itself Uh Well Well, here's the thing of it slick when it comes to addressing Uh issues Whoo good whiskey The emotional aspect is only the half of it the other half is the consequences and the action is it led to it's This is where women and men trying to balance each other with the yin and the yang sort of effects men will solve the physical basic aspect of it's where women would rather focus on the emotional aspect of it And once you learn that dynamic and you learn to work with each other You can actually get along with chicks pretty easily But But like the way I said it to it's like well, that doesn't make any sense if you want to solve the problem emotionally then like A conversation with them be like hey, I'm sorry. I fucked up. I'll try to do better It's planes why women instinctively reach for strategies that men find baffling making his favorite meal sending funny memes Offering physical affection or simply waiting for time to heal the emotional wound So what is you doesn't want to say I'm sorry. I fucked up her idea of saying sorry Is to give you apology sex making meals send you funny memes Etc. I don't like well the blow jobs nice, but I really hear I'm sorry. I'm gonna work on myself You know if I had a choice between apology sex or like her actually saying I'm sorry and actually meeting it and working on herself And truly regretting her actions. I don't have the second one to be honest All 34 years old and I'm at that magical age of an adult's life or I stop thinking with my dick And I'm like I've gone six years about sex. I've realized at the end of our lives. We're all gonna die alone It doesn't matter if you have somebody or not You either die alone before someone else does or you die with nobody in your life And let me tell you something you see if that is the saddest fucking thing to watch when you're on a nursing home visiting your great grandparents And they forget that's your That you're there or they forget that like their other half died You're seeing someone so not seeing them in ages and it's like they died remember oh five minutes later It's sad as shit dude. You want to sit there and bitch because someone didn't find you attractive enough because of your body parts and I'm like yeah, whatever So it's not just saying sorry and owning her shit You know Women think they can just excuse their shitty behavior By being sexual with you of being like and to a point I get that because Of some of the experiences I've had with women in my life I've noticed that when I was dating Jessica Boyle and we were just fighting about stupid shit out of nowhere should whip out her titties And it's like why are you doing that? You know what I'm saying So to some point this video has a lot of Making sense kind of thing Through her perspective these aren't avoidance tactics their direct solutions to the real problem, which is isn't you want a direct So less oh my fucking god, so okay, so according to her it's like you could cheat you know what I'm saying She cheats on you with your boss and her solution is to suck your dick and make you say what she is instead of just to say I'm sorry. I want you to get you know what I'm saying. That's basically what he's saying and I'm like I Just give it time it always always self and I'm like Course I'm one to talk I cocked one of my buddies one time and uh He literally looked at me and he was like to fuck her and I was like yeah, man I did and I wasn't gonna be a pussy and like you know what I'm saying In line to one my own my shit cuz that's what men do we own our shit and it's like He started crying dude, and I feel so bad for the guy. I was just like Blotional state the strategy even extends to sexual approaches Many women intuitively understand that physical intimacy can reset emotional dynamics Yeah, but that's the thing of it that it was Oh my god this video It makes you think and it makes me frustrated and like human psychology, you know She thinks okay, well she doesn't have to say sorry just do him sex and you know, he'll feel good once he busts and not And then like when he has that post-knot clarity kind of thing He might be like oh that was the best you know because what she knows she fucked up. She'll put a little bit of effort into it You know what I'm saying like We just stress hormones and create neurochemical bonding that makes conflicts. We're less significant Look Realistically any guy will tell you that if you're fighting with your girlfriend And she gives you the most amazing sex you've ever had You know what I'm saying you're gonna look at the conflict like what are you fighting about again And to a standpoint that works, but all that does is bury the conflict beneath the surface It doesn't resolve it and quite frankly women are more than just sex So when you see women weaponizing it against society and men when it's convenient for them And then complaining because society only sees women as sex and Women are overly sexualized. I'm like well Your actions or what make people perceive these things and that's kind of unfair And that that's very much true for men in that sense because of a lot of shitty men out there who treat women like crap and as a consequence We got these stereotypes that all men are pigs, you know kind of thing purely practical standpoint This can be remarkably effective Many men do feel better after physical connection even when the underlying issue remains unresolved And that's just it You want to sit there and say we have a communication problem But you refuse to say you're sorry you give me the silent treatments And instead you offer me sex because you don't want to resolve the issue I'm like that's kind of bullshit dude. I'm sorry, but that's the truth That's how I feel about it Like I don't know the result the issue did in there and if we have makeup sex After the fight after we've resolved the issue and you acknowledge your sorry or if I fuck up I say I'm sorry and you work through it as a couple and that's different You know what I'm saying The strategy backfires Let interpret these emotional repair attempts as manipulation or if we Interpretation it's the fucking truth Because you know for a fact if all men had to do to get away with their shitty behavior was fuck women with their dick. They totally do it You Part of it is social manipulation and the other half is her DNA her female brain is programmed to think Okay, he's mad She's got a fuck the war out of him, you know sort of the speak and it's like I don't have a sincere apology over a good a good fuck session, you know what I'm saying Like I'll just suck his dick and he'll get over it. It's like no, okay. No Like I appreciate The physical intimacy, but I really resolved the issue like I'm a sure adult Because guess what sex ain't gonna last forever eventually you're gonna get too old to do it And all you're gonna have left is communication. This is why I tell my fans and anyone watching and listen That good communications more important than good sex when it comes to a relationship Figgins because they don't address what men see as the core issue the need for acknowledgement in account the core issues her shitty fucking actions Plenty of simple if men did pull this crap Women would fucking hate it Like you want to apologize to me you're just gonna Buy me expensive gifts and eat my pussy out well Tobility What feels like problem solving to her feels like deflection to him This creates him it does create a vicious cycle because she thinks she's solving the problem Because she doesn't want to admit she's wrong and the problem with this is this is basic human psychology 101 is nobody wants to admit when they're wrong It makes them feel like we're less than perfect, you know what I'm saying What it is And it is deflection to a point like you're avoiding the problem like I can that blowjob was nice But that doesn't address the core issue, you know what I'm saying Yeah Dicious cycle she tries to solve what she sees as the problem his emotional state Using strategies that make sense from her framework It becomes more you want to solve the problem because there is emotional states Then just say you're sorry and actually making solid effort to work on it You can see here to say sorry, but I'm like like I said sorry doesn't cut the cheese You know what I'm saying frustrated because she's not addressing what he sees as the problem her behavior and lack of accountability Her strategies fail to satisfy him so she tries harder using the same approach which frustrates him more Neither party is wrong about their problem definition They're operating from different but internally consistent frameworks Understanding this differences crucial because it explains why well intention efforts to resolve conflicts often And I get that sometimes like your intentions are good, but they get misconstrued That is very much true of our society 100% like your intentions could be good But then everyone else has to turn the fuck with you or ruin it or your intentions get misconstrued And then you get seen as a bitch or a creep or whatever, you know, so yeah, I get this This guy is on something man to make them worse The women making his favorite meal isn't being manipulative. She's genuinely trying to solve what she perceives as the problem Okay, if you're trying to perceive the problem like okay if you want to Do what women already do in that aspect like you've been saying and then say you're sorry We got something going here. You know what I'm saying like If women want to address the problem emotionally then you got to consider your partner's emotions That's just You know, I'm saying Like ocean made you your favorite for sure sandwich Sweetheart white toasted bread All of them are infused mayo on both slices Bottom slice gets two packets of prosciutto So freshly cooked fit cut bacon So mozzarella cheese some red onions the top bun gets freshly ground black pepper cilantro garlic salt and onion powder and And Call the sandwich dude fucking oh my god. You don't even know that's like my favorite sandwich to eat dude 100% It's like okay. Well, I appreciate you making Making me a sandwich and all this and that but that's not addressing the issue and then women want a bitch because You got communication issues. You don't listen to my problem. You're not addressing the issue blah blah blah That is like Some basic hypocrisy 101 and like you know what let me ask you this ladies If your man cheated on you with your best friend And refused to apologize because he was afraid of losing the sex you gave him and all I did was to avoid the apology and Like eat your pussy out and make you your favorite food and be cutesy with you Like you wouldn't have it. You'd be like you're not addressing the issue and you know you would scream communication issues So quickly dude The man demanding an apology isn't being controlling he's seeking a solution that addresses what he perceives as the root cause That's what I'm saying. That's exactly what I'm fucking saying is it dude who's sitting there Oh It is controlling to a point just like it's manipulative when women do what they do But like at the same time it's also a solution because better simple creatures have habits. We see a problem We see a simple solution. We make it happen. We figure it out A B Z D and whatever A B C D whatever we finish it Problem solved The problem perception gap reveals why conflicts escalate. It's not necessarily as controlling more so as like Women using sex to avoid saying sorry because that's controlling Men wanting an apology for being treated like shit. That's not controlling us. Just basic human wants is women got treated like shit And didn't get an apology for it. They would break up with you It's Even when both parties have good intentions When want accountability for behavior women want repair of emotional damage Sorry I farted Oh, it smells like gender relations Oh Men want accountability for the actions men want accountability for the actions women want to repair The emotional damage that it caused So like at its face value both sides have good intentions Now both strategies can be valid but they're solving different problems in time That's what I'm saying but they're in both sides have good intentions But you're solving problems differently Ily Before we continue If you're finding this exploration valuable Please take a second to hit the like button and subscribe to the channel It takes less than a second cost you nothing and it's a great way to help spread this message to others who might benefit from understanding these psychological patterns Women's rights. It's all about patterns once people realize the psychological patterns of the human race And how women have been think You under you understand basic human psychology it allows you to navigate Your society Locked into apologize isn't a character flaw Women's reluctance to apologize isn't a character flaw while it's depends on the woman because Jessica boils fucking and sufferable and refuses to take any accountability for her shit. So That's the exception to the arguments It's an evolved survival strategy that served a crucial function throughout human history and Jessica boil is fast approaching boxed wine and can't land at warp speed to quote Terence pop with donkulous.com my ex Jessica boil is approaching boxed wine and can't land at warp speed She's already got eight cats that her parents take care of she lives at home with her mommy and daddy Has no kids no job Spits all day drinking and bitching about me and messica and whoever else I feel sorry for Jessica boil to be honest I've established myself as a content creator and I make Good money doing my thing. So I have a job and a lot of people are jealous of it Because like cobra gets to do what he wants for a job Womps stuck taking it up that you know what from a corporate boss. I'm like yeah sucks to be you And I wouldn't have this sweet job today who work for my youtube trolls When I was working at Wendy's my youtube trolls submitted a false customer complaint that got me fired When I was working my dishwasher job They harass the owners of that bar and they harassed my female co-workers And the woman I was working for the head chef she was just She created a very toxic work environment You'll get me started on her And I finally just said you know what I don't want to take this crap I started selling my magic wands on Etsy and then my youtube channel took off and now it's like yeah Bad lands chugs and it was like check me out on cameo and I'm like hold up cameo. What's this? So it's here's the bad lands chugs. You know what I'm saying because like I love cameo I made good money doing it people can pay like every day I got a cameo shout out when you got almost two 2,000 200,000 subscribers on youtube almost People are gonna know who the fuck you are. They're gonna want to buy cameos. So I appreciate that The survival strategy throughout human history I get that argument to a point But humans now have evolved to be the most dominant of the animal kingdom Like the only thing below humans would be like lions and shit You know what I'm saying humans are the superior species Oh cobra is being a speciesist well, I just can't stand his videos. Well then who's forcing you to watch That being said humans don't have to like hunts You survive for their food all they gotta do is fire up door to ash or go to their favorite fast food spot or grow the grocery store With technology in the way the human race is advanced Love that by the way, you fuck you and you know what I'm saying I don't got a fight for my survival As a human like my ancestors did I'm internally grateful for that. I have no idea what my human ancestors went through to survive But whatever the humans did back in the day We've gotten this far as a human race to spoil the wars the poverty the disease the famine All the disgusting horrible things that makes the world a fucked off an evil place, you know To understand why women default to emotional repair over direct accountability We need to consider the evolutionary content So you want to fix the problem because you're You're gonna deflect emotional repair but at the same time you want to repair The emotional side of it. That's what it is You want to deflect all responsibility from yourself But at the same time you like you want to fix the emotional status of it. That makes no sense Extend which this strategy is developed for the vast majority of human history Women survival and that of their children depended heavily on maintaining male support and protection You know and that's kind of sexist if you ask me but that's just how society has This is how mother nature has made it. This is why men are genetically tougher than women Otherwise you wouldn't to a fit when a trans person You know dominates female sports And my solution to that is just to give trans people their own sports leagues Because genetics has made us men tougher Because men remain to hunt together provide divide and conquer And take down society, you know Women were made to like nurture the people who birth Children and caregivers etc and keep the home and it's been like this for like ages for centuries even And it's a bit outdated yes because now women can do what men do and vice versa Minus the fact that if you think men give birth to children you're fucking retarded So because women relied on a man's protection for their children And for her Her whole chick was Don't piss him off basically, and I'm like Okay, if he's a real man and he has kids with you He's just gonna take that anger and swallow it you know what I'm saying because like if you care about your children At the very least you'll make it work with the woman that drives you fucking up a wall ancestral environments Direct confrontation or ignition of fault to a male partner carried genuine risks A woman who acknowledged serious wrongdoing risk triggering male anger potential violence or abandonment So because women are afraid to trigger a man's anger or because You know what what this person just said I'm like no wonder why women are so fucking miserable this shit's programming their fucking DNA It's like oh, we don't want to piss off the male, you know, and it's like ill You know what I mean? You feel like shit about being a man. Thanks a lot Not guaranteed it's not a gender thing and people should just be afraid to piss piss off men in general It shouldn't be a thing about like Male versus female it should be just in general You don't want to piss off people because some people are just scary when they're pissed off Some people are just really fucked up and scary when they're pissed off and you don't want to do it You don't want certain people as your enemy because it doesn't do you any favors Any of which could be catastrophic for her survival and that of her offspring The stakes were literally life and death Yeah, but that was back in caveman days You know what I'm saying Like this idea of the survival of her and her demon spawn with reliance on Not pissing off her husband basically I'm like well, that's a bit fucked So you could say that The first couple of humans when it came to like dating is very primitive very sexist I'm very outdated But now a living as society and this is why sexism never gets called out when it happens to men It's because of the way evolution as treated humans And uh, he'd call me an asshole for saying that one is the truth And it doesn't make it any better We got to end sexism amongst the genders It's not making it about this whole stupid dynamic of man versus woman kind of thing Under these conditions evolution favored women who could defuse male anger and restore harmony Without directly challenging male authority or admitting fault that might be used against them later Or it may be fault that might be used against them later You know kind of like how like when women don't want to talk about certain things in a fight and Finish to avoid the argument completely and then when you're having another fight about something completely different They have they bring that shit back up like bra The strategies we see today Mercury behaviors physical affection indirect emotional repair aren't modern inventions Their time-tested approaches that kept our female ancestors alive Consider the biological mechanisms at play when a woman offers physical affection or nurturing behaviors She triggers the release of oxytocin and other bondic hormones in her partner These neurochemicals naturally reduce aggression increase attachment He's not wrong when women are nurturing or offer affection or like sexual favor in their partner It does release chemicals in the male brain and increase attachment and create a feeling of well-being So like it's her cute way of saying sorry well like taking no accountability for it and it's total bullshit Because as a man who's now 34 I'd rather her take accountability for her fucking shitty actions Because it would be no different if I was to act if I was to act like the world's biggest piece of shit She would expect me to take accountability for it so If I try pulling the whole excuse that well Menager-seen-its-pigs in our society of sick and tired of apologizing for my ancestors When I have no responsible Control over how they treated you and your ancestors kind of thing, you know She wouldn't be having it. She'd be like oh your white tears Oh check your male privilege And create feelings of well-being that make conflicts feel less important From a purely biological standpoint. This is incredibly sophisticated conflict resolution Rather than engaging in potentially dangerous verbal confrontations women learn to manipulate the neurochemical environment twitch That's how men feel. It's like we're learning having a fucking you know what I've been saying about the jokes of my YouTube channel where it's like You can have a fight with a woman or you can stick your dick In a basketball of monocled cobras and then get invented which one would you rather do? Pass me the basket Leave the same goal and that's the thing of it like men for the most part do not want to fight with their woman You know, I don't know a single man out there that craves drama or like secretly wants to fucking constantly fight with their other half Like speaking as a man I'd rather make love to my girlfriend than fight with her constantly And women know this to an extent and they feel the same way to a point So it's like well, all you gotta do is xyz, you know what I'm saying? Which it's appreciated but like you know what I'm saying? Fucking it doesn't resolve the issue Ending the conflict and restoring harmony This you want to end the conflict don't just focus on the emotional aspect of it focus on how he might feel Here's thing of it You want to end the fight with your other half? It would not kill The genders to be like well to listen with your ears and before you're quick to be so defensive and aggressive Typical male versus female bullshit It's like well listen to what they have to say, you know and like what they say and piss you off Then maybe you say it well, I don't appreciate what you said because that made me mad and you feel icky inside You know, so you talk about that and then you just talk it out And then when you come to our resolution both sides feel Soundless-fied with the conversation So Also explained why women often use sex as a conflict resolution tool The only reason why women use sex as a conflict as a resolution conflict resolution tool because they know it works Because men have been programmed to want sex all the time and women are overly sexualized in our society and it's disgusting It's what creates a lot of problems in our society's culture But I didn't say that loud And women have the same sex drivers a man they're seeing us slutty and it's like really dude really Sexual activity floods the brain with bonding chemicals reduces cortisol levels and creates powerful feelings of connection that can override anger and resentment It's not manipulation It's two degree it is manipulation we have the same time It's not because she doesn't want to fight with you. She just wants to make love I get that make love not war peace and love and chicken agrees the power to the people man. I get that 100% But at the same time I'd rather resolve the conflict with words because Sex to me is meaningless you go six years about it and you realize that you don't need it to be happy And you realize that any woman can give you sex if it's consenting and all that you know what I'm saying and This person says that this is biology working exactly as evolution designed it and to a degree I get that You have to say time. It's like I'd rather resolve the conflict with words And like sex violence or manipulation psychology lies. I like fuck all that. I'm like fuck all that I'd rather resolve the words I'd rather resolve the words and the fighting with like good communication instead of being like well Okay, you offer me a prosciutto sandwich or a blow job. Okay. Well fucking great. You know what I'm saying And I like the prosciutto sandwich of that make the red onion with Everything just as in that little bite to it It's biology working exactly as evolution designed it No, it's biology working because women in their program to fuck have kids and then keep those kids safe And then like those kids go grow up Have kids of their own and the cycle continues That's that's biology and evolution for you This trip and remember biology doesn't give a fuck a bunch of pronouns Like Like I'm a dude. I can appreciate Good of age plus what I'm giving it you know on all that but like I don't have a conversation to resolve I don't resolve the conflict without it having to resort to her feeling like she has to suck my dick because I'm angry and pissed off Versus she suck at my dick because she thinks I'm the hottest guy she's ever seen and because She loves me You know what I'm saying if you're only having sex with your partner because You don't want them to be angry and you're trying to diffuse a situation versus You're doing it because you want to and because you love them. There's a difference If you only suck at my dick because you fear my anger and you want you fuse a situation while Casually a voting's happened to say you're sorry. I'm not having it I Did you work so well that it became deeply embedded in female psychology Even in modern contexts where the physical risks are minimal women still instinctively reach for these evolutionary solutions because they're wired into the female nervous system But he has the problem the problem is like yeah, I get what this guy saying evolution blah blah blah I'm like evolution and like survival of the fittest. It's wired into the human brain It's been this way since the dawn of time my friends But now that humans do not have to try that hard to survive Traveling is relatively easy if you can't afford a car we have bicycles you have your Lambert feedies You know what I'm saying the poor me another drink one second Modern men often interpret these biologically driven strategies as dishonest or manipulative It is dishonest the manipulative because if it were gender reversed women wouldn't put up with it They'd be like well, I appreciate you sucking She appreciates you sucking her pussy out, you know She's on her period You cuddle with her on the couch and watch Gilmore girls even though you two had a big major fight the other day And you're like babe what are you in the mood for like pasta can you make me sound when I'm like yes? I can I found this recipe by King Cobra JFS where he does this bacon white wine chicken alfredo pasta with beer and white wine And a four cheese alfredo sauce arguably one of my favorite The chicken white wine bacon alfredo that I made on my king cobra channel Arguably one of my tastiest food hacks usually angel hair pasta to make it It was like oh dude stop And like I'd rather resolve a fight with my other half with good food and good wine and communication And at least to make up sex then that's a bonus last thing on my mind first thing on my mind is be like okay You know what this is why I'm mad This is a solution Let's make it happen pretty cut and dry. That's just how my my male brain thinks And like if women want to sit here, they're so focused on the On the emotional aspect of solving the issue of women emotional perspective But you refuse to say sorry for your shitty actions. That's called being insufferable Oh Shit Now I keep the door empty in the window wide open when I smoking doors And as a result the rest of the House doesn't stink of tobacco so that's there's that Because they don't address what contemporary masculine psychology values most direct communication accountability and behavioral change Oh my god you're telling me that masculine whatever he said values the same things that women wants Let's rewind that Because they don't address what contemporary masculine What could temporarily masculine for psychology values most In psychology values most Direct communication Women want direct communication communication is key can Accountability accountability when men are being shit and they think accountability for their actions And actually fix the problem if they're serious about it behavioral change behavioral change men you mean women women want the same thing when it comes to like relationships It's This is why this video fucking piss me off because I'm like women are men are so similar to each other and yet so different In a lot of ways It's fascinating and yet it's mentally frustrating Have their own evolutionary programming that values direct confrontation clear hierarchies and explicit acknowledgement of You think men value this shit occasion accountability and behavioral change Men have their own evolutionary programming that yes men have their own valid evolutionary programming that values direct confrontation Like women craving drama values direct confrontation clear hierarchies clear hierarchies like who's the top bitch And explicit acknowledgement of false The programming that we've received women are exactly the same in a lot of ways A clear hierarchy will here's the top girl here's all of her female friends that follow behind her kind of thing An explicit acknowledgement of false see when men refuse to take responsibility for their shitty actions Women can't stand it The other hip the other you know I'm saying It is literally honor hypocrisy at its finest An explicit acknowledgement of false Emailed dominated social structures throughout history and knitting long doing and accepting consequences was how conflicts were resolved That's what I'm saying Like 100% if you live in a male dominated society You know what I'm saying and the best way to resolve conflict is to admit that you're being a fucking douchebag and that you fucked up and that Is you know I'm saying This is why men rule our society because like we can admit we're wrong and resolve conflicts But women on the other hand When it comes to other women and their boyfriends You know and everything you can't you can't acknowledge That you're wrong and that you fucked up you gotta make it all about while I'm sexually independent or while I'm a liberated blah blah blah You know my social order was maintained you want to scream you were sexually liberated woman Then try to adjust And fix the emotional turmoil you put on your boyfriend who wants nothing to do with it Like I I put my heart out and solely you And it's not good enough There's two evolutionary strategies female emotional repair and male direct accountability Women want accountability too. I'm just saying so like this whole female emotional repair versus male direct accountability Like you think men don't want some emotional resolve on this issue like okay A modern day Bud Light commercial be like You're watching the game you life comes home And she's like I want a divorce she's been cheating on you with her non-binary transexual asexual pansexual boss She started an only fans page As she spends all the money on herself or her new playthings dates You know i'm saying And if you don't like it well then you're transphobic homophobic racist sexist whatever And that makes you mad Well here's the Bud Lights If female value if females value Emotional repair and the relationship and then yet they can't say sorry when it actually counts That that's what's frustrating about it. It's like you can sit there and fucking apologize Which is existing and then like turn around and when it actually counts Say shit because you don't want to admit accountability typical human So after different but complimentary functions in ancestral environments women kept groups cohesive through emotional management While men maintained order through clear rules and consequences The conflict arises when these ancient strategies collide in modern intimate relationships She's trying to restore harmony using methods that worked for thousands of years While he's seeking accountability using methods that also worked for thousands of years But they're optimized for different social contexts Women's conflict strategies aren't modern dysfunctions They're ancient survival mechanisms that kept our species alive Understanding this evolutionary context helps us see these behaviors not as manipulation But as deeply ingrained responses to perceive threats to relationships stability For women giving genuine apologies in intimate relationships creates a vulnerability That feels psychologically and evolutionarily dangerous Here's what men often don't understand about female psychology admitting fault to someone you depend on emotionally feels like handing them a weapon They can use against you in oh that is such bullshit because men feel the same exact way when you admit Like men are not allowed to be vulnerable Men are seen as you have to be tough and stoic And if you admit any faults or vulnerability to a woman it can be used as a weapon against you Don't give me that crap dude stop What men's failed to realize about a female psychology I'm like female psychology and men's psychology are pretty much the same to a point Men don't want to admit fault because it makes them look weak in front of their partner And like women women and men are being told if you're weaker than the opposite sex you're not tough enough And I'm sick of it Definitely This isn't paranoia it's pattern recognition based on thousands of years of evolutionary programming and often personal experience An intimate relationships women frequently give more of themselves emotionally than men do They're more likely to sacrifice career opportunities for relationships more likely to relocate for a partner's job An intimate relationships women frequently give more of themselves emotionally than men do They're more likely You know the reason why women get themselves emotionally more than men do is because men are allowed to show their emotions That's not bullshit ourselves To sacrifice career opportunities for relationships more likely to relocate for a partner's job More likely to take on emotional labor that keeps the relationship functioning This greater investment creates greater vulnerability When you've invested more in a relationship a acknowledging fault And the idea that men won't seem for women because of emotional vulnerability come on man But it feels riskier because it potentially gives the other person ammunition to justify treating the poorly or leaving A woman who apologizes for significant wrongdoing is essentially saying I'm the one who damaged this relationship It doesn't mean you damage it it just means you fucked up like this idea that her woman apologizes automatically being she's not attractive enough and blah blah blah You know what fuck up which can be used against her if the relationship deteriorates Oh you have this idea of it could be used against her as the relationship deteriorates That is rich because men go through the same thing They don't want to like fully be honest and communicate with a woman because They're afraid of losing the sex they're afraid of losing the commitment And it can be held against them when the relationship goes south and she can blame you for everything because you're a typical male pig Kiss my ass This vulnerability is compounded by social dynamics that many it is the vulnerability of meeting that she's wrong is compelled by social dynamics This is 100% true for both women and men in that aspect men don't fully appreciate No, I appreciate it because I totally fucking get it you know Like You I remember when I took Jessica Boyle out for sushi when we were dating and my buddy Aaron Was letting us use his car While he was at work But Jessica Boyle a ticket advantage of his kindness and my kindness I felt bad. I was like dude you like sushi too like You know, I'm saying So like the video you see of me eating sushi at a restaurant while I'm drinking plumsocky and I'm just like Look at this plate of sushi. Oh That is gorgeous That video was genuine I like I appreciated Aaron for what he did As a friend you know The two-dee sucking incident it is what it is Jessica Boyle's a fucking slots So I don't hold Aaron accountable for that We're met often socialized to be relationship managers Wait women are programmed to be so what But it by social dynamics that many men don't fully appreciate women are often socialized to be relationship managers Why is it women are often socialized to be relationship managers Okay, that's kind of bullshit in my opinion because women should not 100% be responsible for managing the relationship You know, where's the man doing his part to make the relationship work If that should not 100% rely on like women in general, you know like fucking Christ Responsible for emotional harmony communication and conflict resolution Like women should not be responsible for communication and conflict resolution Like it takes two people to fight And if the man can't do his part to like ease the tension Then he's not a good fit for you ladies. This whole you want to date the bad boy You want to date the bad boy? He's not a bad boy. He just treats you badly There's a difference you date him thinking you can change him But if you were in sufferable you're bipolar and your high maintenance He's only going to use you for a couple of sex sessions and then he's gonna leave And then you're gonna bitch because all men are the same And it's like well look here's the thing of it. Would you try to date a man Who's constantly trying to change you Because know you're perfect just the way you are and fucking you man that tries to change you When something goes wrong in the relationship women frequently blame themselves even when the filters shared or belongs primarily to their partner Given this tendency towards self blame admitting fault in specific situations can feel like accepting responsibility for the entire relationship's problems And he's 100% right with what you just said And I'm like look if it takes two people to fight And women should not feel like it's all my fault because You and your other half for fighting unless it is your fault. So like if you're cheating on your boyfriend's boss And then avoiding it saying sorry by sucking his dick You know you sucking your boyfriend's dick isn't gonna mean shit when you've already sucked his boss's dick So like an extreme case is like that. It is your fault But for the most part outside of that it takes two people to fight and if you're in a relationship all you do is fights then you'd be better off finding other partners Sad truth of it The woman who apologizes for one argument might fear that she's implicitly accepting the role of the problem person in the relationship There's also the issue of emotionally There's such bullshit Men are being blamed for everything Like this doesn't matter what men do. It's always our fault. So like whatever There's also the issue of emotional labor in equality That's hilarious because when men are not allowed to show more emotions, but women are totally allowed to be as emotional as they want The inequality isn't towards women. I'll tell you that right now For inequality Many women feel like they already do most of the work to maintain Many women feel like they do most of the work to maintain the relationship harmony Right When men are expected to do everything and all you gonna do To keep a clean house keep this ball sack empty You know That's adorable Like you want to maintain the relationship harmony All you have to do to maintain the relationship harmony is give him sex and that's why you give it to him when you're in arguments and you've exhausted all four of your nuclear options And And it's like you know what's Any woman can give you sex as a man that doesn't make her special You know i'm right otherwise women wouldn't try to capitalize off of it by doing only fans You You want to maintain relationship harmony actually practice what you preach if women are so keen On like the emotional repair of the arguments intake accountability for your shits And if like men don't take accountability for the craft they've done it will then that's their problem In relationship harmony managing calendars remembering important dates initiating difficult conversations smoothing over conflicts with extended family From this perspective being asked to also formally apologize when things go wrong can feel like adding insult to injury The vulnerability paradox is intensified by the fact that women are And the fact that it is is like men women don't like feeling vulnerable That's the simple fucking truth of it is like women and men do not like feeling vulnerable When they admit they're wrong and they fucked up it makes them feel like a piece of shit It makes them feel like well i'm not perfect and then a society that expects everyone to be perfect When we're all imperfect and we're all just trying to experience life, you know Often receive less emotional support than they provide Studies consistently show that women are okay women if you're receiving No emotional support if you're the woman in the relationship and you're giving it a hundred and ten percent with your emotional Supports and that dude's not giving it to you right back He's not worth the fucking headache. You're a side-check, you know At this point And it's like if men are not giving you The response you know i'm saying one of my fan girls was feeling suicidal if you know like she has no one to talk to And i immediately texted her to I said fuck suicide you have me to talk to So don't sit there and say that you have no one to talk to knock at the fuck off And i'm like i don't know what her mental problems are but it's like don't don't try to play this crap, you know what i'm saying Excuse me The only reason why women offer more emotional support It's because they're allowed to if men offer emotional support towards women He's being told he's a simp and the only reason why he's trying to do it is to get down her pants And the irony and that is like If you diffuse the argument by trying to suck his dick I'm just saying For more emotional support to their partners than they receive in return When you're willing to give more emotional energy than you're getting And waiting a fault and taking responsibility for problems can feel like an unfair additional burden And that's actually pretty fair if you're giving all the emotional and physical support in your partner doesn't Reciprocate that and give you the same support It's It could feel like a burden and an insult to your Memory and all that This creates a psychological protection mechanism if i don't admit fault I can't be held entirely responsible for fixing the problem And that's kind of fair but also unfair to a point like if women are given 100 and that that's what pisses me off about our society is like Man are not allowed to share their emotions But women are and women are expected to give out sex to be the emotional supporters And men aren't It leaves women feeling like hey, you know what this person doesn't appreciate what i'm laying down And that's kind of unfair to women you know So They feel like okay, well they're not going to give me an emotional support You know this like like this person said like if you don't acknowledge it it doesn't exist And i might ask the thing of it ladies that's not how it works If you murdered somebody And then pretend like you didn't do it that doesn't exchange the fact of what you did It's not conscious manipulation It's an uncle it is manipulation like you want to sit there like this dude's trying so hard to get shit So i'm like call call people out for their shit call your own shit out And like if people don't like it then people need to be nicer to each other and stop fucking being jerks to each other It's just strategy to maintain some emotional equilibrium in relationships Well if women are constantly trying to maintain emotional equilibrium in a relationship And like that's the thing of it Whenever men see chicks that are just as tough as dudes and intimidates them Whenever chicks see a dude that's just as emotional as chicks and intimidates them Otherwise you wouldn't be like oh you are a pussy for showing your emotions The women often feel like they're doing more of the emotional work The irony is that this protection mechanism often backfires By avoiding accountability women misopportunities to demonstrate the kind of integrity and self-awareness That actually strengthens relationships and increases respect from partners That's exactly what i'm saying If you put your male masculinity aside or you're feminine like i'm better than men fucking attitude aside And actually fucking accountability for your shit you know what i'm saying But understanding the vulnerability paradox helps explain why women might choose emotional repair strategies over direct The vulnerability paradox that it's only vulnerable when women are feeling Voner with women feel vulnerable. It's it's cared about But if if men feel vulnerable We're told equipped be an pussy and suck it up act apologies From their perspective making his favorite meal or offering physical affection accomplishes the goal or storing harmony and again Like if you want to avoid apologies Your idea as a woman to avoid the argument is to offer him sex and affection and like a sandwich whatever That doesn't fucking do shit and that might feel good in the moments But like it doesn't result the issue and you can't sit there or throw a fit because you have communication issues When you take no accountability for your shit while getting mad because your man doesn't accountability for his shit Not requiring them to accept additional responsibility or vulnerability in an already unbalanced dynamic The vulnerability paradox reveals that women's reluctance to apologize often stems from feeling like they already carry too much responsibility relationship maintenance Oh, okay, that's just there if women feel like they carry too much responsibility They feel like they were burdened with their emotions And yet you're constantly apologizing for shit you shouldn't have to apologize for Well, there's your solution stop apologizing for shit. You shouldn't have to apologize for and fuck with everybody else things Understanding this helps men see apology avoidance not a stubbornness but as emotional self-protection in real emotional self-protection is just cold for being manipulative And then trying to be like well, I deserve rights, but fuck everybody else and that's kind of Our society is these days Relationships where women often give more than they receive What most women do okay women if you're in a relationship where you you give off more than you receive I would make it apparent and be like hey, you know what? I do what want for you could you like step it up and if like he gets an attitude about it It's one thing if he's trying his best and he can't provide a whole lot But he provides what he can and if you can't appreciate that that's your problem. You're a gold digging slot But it's another complete argument if he has the resources and you give it 110% But he doesn't give you jack shit Well then he's a fucking zero And you need you need a hero You know to quote Bonnie Taylor You And realizes that refusing to apologize when appropriate doesn't protect their position in the relationship It undermines the very respect and admiration they're hoping to maintain that's exactly the truth When women refuse to apologize for their shitty behaviors because honorically You don't want to make an emotional deal out of it. They want to protect their fragile male male slash female ego what have you All you're doing is undermining and that's the thing of it When women and men would act like this because men act like this too. That's why I said male slash female When men and women act like this in a relationship Because you want to protect your other halves emotions and continue what the relationship provides You're undermining their respect and like dignity of the whole thing Here's a counterintuitive truth that we're doing wrong when you're actually wrong is one of the fastest ways to gain respect rather than lose it This operates on multiple psychological levels that many women don't fully understand First has the basic principle of integrity When someone owns their mistakes honestly and directly it demonstrates several highly attractive qualities self-awareness courage and genuine care for the other person's feelings These are exactly the traits that build long-term respect and admiration in relationships Second, apologizing appropriately actually demonstrates strength rather than weakness It takes significant personal strength. That's what I'm saying you shouldn't apologize for shit That's not your fault and like apologize when it actually counts To overcome pride, acknowledge fault and make yourself vulnerable to someone you've heard Having pride doesn't make you a bad person Because they get so sick and tired of how fake our society is It's like if you have pride you're a cocky arrogant piece of shit If you don't have pride you need to have more confidence in yourself You can't win with society half the time and it's so fucking irritating Most people recognize this courage even if they don't consciously think about it Third, genuine apologies repair trust in a way that alternative strategies simply cannot When someone admits wrongdoing and commits to behavioral change It addresses the fundamental question that underlies all relationship conflict Can I trust this person to treat me well? Emotional repair strategies might make someone feel better temporarily But they don't answer this crucial trust question And that's what I'm saying like if you want to avoid the question Avoid the conversation All your pissed off so they give you sex because You know the stereotype of all men wise sex That's why women fucking do this crap It's like you don't want to take accountability for apologizing You should just give him sex and he'll get over it And I if men have the female mentality when it came to like holding grudges and not letting shit go Women would fucking hate it You'd be like you're unsufferable But like most men are like you can be right or you can be happy So it's like I get that to a point But like I said I'm not gonna hold a grudge I'd rather talk about it like a mature adults And at least in some sweet make up sex afterwards So then that's just a bonus You know I'd rather talk about it like a mature adult Make my girlfriend a sandwich like what's your favorite sandwich you know The respect economy operates differently than many women expect Rather than losing standing by admitting fault Women who apologize appropriately often find that their partners Respect for them increases dramatically That's 100% the truth You know if I'm dating a woman and she fucked up and she admits her false I'm gonna have a lot more respect for her than if she's sitting there denying it and then trying to gaslight me with sex You know what I'm saying that's just the fucking truth Women are more than just sex Yet those gaslight you with it because they know it works. I'm like When in particular a condition to value direct communication and accountability so And that's just it I fully agree with that men are They value direct communication and accountability The thing that women claim they want but as soon as they get it It's well You're a pig Because the second women here what men really want to think They get offended They get mad they get angry it's like Women who can own her mistakes often stands out as exceptional That's what I'm saying a woman who can own her mistakes is exceptional I feel that for like women especially when they're trying to pursue a man And a man secure enough with his ego and his masculinity To be like you know what I fucked up. I should have done better. I will do better You know so like it's basic Human psychology at this point This is partly because many men have experienced the frustrating pattern of women you never quite take For Responsibility for their actions a woman who breaks this pattern by offering genuine accountability Instantly differentiates herself in a powerful way It's so rare that it feels report it comes down to as fucking honesty Accountability and honesty women crave the same thing in men Good communication honesty and what have you That some guy like pretends to like them just so we can get laid you know Remarkable but the respect economy also works in reverse Consistently avoiding accountability when appropriate gradually erodes respect and trust Each time a woman chooses emotional repair over genuine apology when she's actually wrong She makes small withdrawals from her partner's respect account Over time this creates a dynamic where the man begins yeah because if you're on you're not so sick You're gonna bitch at being say like we have a communication issue But you don't want to communicate with me it shows you don't respect me You want to scream at me like oh there's the communication issue blah blah blah And then want to try to make an effort you dismiss it and and then you sex to fucking manipulate the situation Or your emotions it shows that you don't want it to accountability for your actions You're just doing what works because your program to think that way To see her as someone who can't be trusted to be honest about her own behavior This perception is often more damaging to the relationship than whatever she was originally trying to avoid by not apologizing And that's the thing of it. I'm not trying to be a dick you too But like when men are told to hold their own shift for accountability and we don't We're seeing as the fucking biggest pigs on the planet Like like a mom gonna take accountability for my actions because men rule the society we live in You know if I have that attitude Which I don't women would hate it. They're like well, you're a cocky entitled piece of shit I don't know like when you see these women who feel like well, they have a vagina Therefore they rule the society we live in and they don't have to take accountability for their own actions because Hashtag believe a woman. How do you think us men feel? And it's like well nobody cares what men think because you're the problem And I might know what the problem is is the way people treat each other And they immediately have to make it about race gender sexuality etc. That's the problem This video was like 27 minutes long and I'm like 20 minutes and 27 seconds into it So we're just about done YouTube No idea how long this video is gonna be but I'm drinking. I'm celebrating Father's Day and doing a gender rant So let's go Oh yeah, Marvell Southern cons The tragedy is that women often avoid apologies to protect their position in the relationship That's exactly my point. The reason why women and men avoid Apologies It's because they don't want to admit that they're wrong and they don't want to admit imperfection And they want to protect their position and the relationship They're afraid of losing the sex that their woman gives them or like the protection their man gives them etc But this strategy typically achieves the opposite result Exactly all it does is show that you don't respect your partner Men interpret apology avoidance is a lack of integrity which undermines attraction and respect What is a lack of avoiding apology like you don't want to say you're sorry you'd rather suck my dick And like if you're a typical pig male you're like I don't care if she apologizes can me suck my dick You know what I'm saying but if you're a real man who values emotions and good communication You're like you know what the blowjob is nice but like where's the accountability because you would expect me to hold accountability If I fucked up as a man and that's how I feel about this The acknowledging mistakes ever would There's also a practical benefit to apologies that many women overlook they're efficient The genuine apology can resolve conflicts in minutes that might otherwise fester for days or weeks Instead of elaborate emotional repair strategies that may or may not work the direct acknowledgement of wrongdoing often allows both parties to move forward immediately The key is understanding when apologies are appropriate Not every conflict requires an apology Sometimes disagreements are about different values or preferences rather than actual wrongdoing That's 100% the truth But when a woman has genuinely behaved badly Crossed a boundary will hurt someone unnecessarily and apology is usually the fastest and most effective path to resolution Your respect economy or anything It's because women crave drama I think it avoid apology like fucking hold on to like some negative fucking issue and like You don't want to talk about what pisses you off in the fights or you're hold on to it And be like Two weeks later when you're having another fight you bring up with Some shit from your past fights that like fucking you didn't talk about kind of thing, you know Beels that apologies are actually investments in relationship equity rather than withdrawals Women who understand this gain a powerful tool for building trust and admiration that alternative strategies That's the thing if if we make you learn how to apologize that knowledge they're shit and use their the fucking sex appeal for their advantage Women would literally control the dating scene But you don't want to make accountability because you don't want you know And it's like the man doesn't want to provide for you because you're in a sufferable slot Well, that's your problem and if he's a piece of shit who can acknowledge his faults That's his problem because y'all deserve better. I don't care Who you're dating if you're single or not You people to serve better when it comes to the dating scene Simply cannot match Of course you found a partner that you're happy with and that's a different story that's excluded from this ranch Anding why women don't apologize reveals the path forward Integrating the best of both masculine and feminine approaches to conflict resolution She doesn't want to apologize because she doesn't respect your masculinity or your opinion While screaming that it's all about her opinion any better respect your feminine and nudity This is why a lot of men are like modern day dating sucks The solution isn't for women to abandon their natural conflict resolution strategies or for men to stop valuing accountability Instead both sexes need to understand and appreciate the complementary strengths that each approach brings to relate I feel that I feel what he just said I'm like yeah, you know what sort of fighting with each other appreciate what each other brings to the table relationship health Women's instinct for emotional repair serves crucial functions in relationships The ability to restore harmony reduce stress and rebuild connection through nurturing behaviors is genuinely valuable Many conflicts do benefit from these approaches Especially when the issue is more about emotional disconnection and specific wrongdoing But emotional repair works best when it's combined with appropriate accountability Not used as a substitute for it That's 100% the truth emotional accountability works better when you're Actually embracing it and not using it to manipulate other people The woman who makes her partner's favorite meal and also acknowledges her role in their conflict Demonstrates both emotional intelligence and personal integrity For women the integration solution involves developing comfort with appropriate vulnerability This means learning to distinguish between situations where apologies are warranted In situations where they're not And finding the courage to offer genuine accountability when it's appropriate This requires overcoming the evolutionary programming that makes admitting fault feel dangerous In modern relationships acknowledging wrongdoing to a loving partner Typically strengthens rather than threatens the relationship Because it takes balls it takes balls to admit when you're wrong And that goes for both genders And it shows you're like you know, I'm saying I like that's the thing of it when it comes to like women versus men You know what I'm saying like Women love men who can show their vulnerability Because in a society where it's like men are supposed to be tough and You know nostalgic and all that Understanding this intellectually can help override ancient emotional responses Women also benefit from understanding that men often interpret emotional repair strategies as avoidance because they're not Well, that's how we how how are we supposed to Like interpret it because the women don't want to say they're sorry for fucking up because both women and men Don't want to take accountability for their actions. It's gonna be seen as avoidance You know, like okay, you make me a prosciutto sandwich you suck my dick. That's fucking really appreciated. Thanks But like That doesn't was all you're doing is taking the issue of why you're angry at your other half and burying it Beneath the surface This is why I'll say it again Good communications more important than good sex But dressing the accountability component that masculine psychology values It's the thing that psych we're really the masculine psychology values women value the same thing You know if you really think about it how many women out there would love to have a man That's all about communication and validation and like the validate you as long as you validate them because when it comes to like dating Uh, it's given to ache uh Excuse me If you refuse to like give off what your partner is giving off then You're not doing anything except taking all the gratitude for yourself And you know appreciate what your partner is laying down and you don't deserve to have somebody I didn't genuinenic knowledge meant to nurturing behaviors makes those behaviors feel sincere rather than manipulative For men the integration solution involves appreciating the genuine value of emotional repair while still maintaining standards for accountability This means recognizing when a partner's nurturing behaviors represent genuine care and effort Even if they don't include explicit apologies Men can also help by creating emotional safety for apologies If a woman's previous experiences with admitting fault have been met with excessive punishment criticism or ongoing resentment oh god forbid because your actions cost a man to be emotional This is why he's pissed off or he's gonna speak his mind if you don't like it way Again if men tried pulling this if men We're cheating on women and like treating them like shit and then take no accountability for their actions because They were afraid to say sorry because they're used to saying sorry for everything else that they don't need to say sorry for A lot of this just seems like a major massive cough up Well women women wouldn't put up with it. They'd be like well if you can't Accountability for your actions then we're not gonna stay together She'll naturally become reluctant to repeat the experience Men who respond to apologies with grace and forgiveness encourage more honesty in the future The most effect and I think that's what women and men want the most and a good relationship more than sex and good communication They want honesty they want love and they want respect But that's just my opinion And my opinion doesn't matter shit Active approach often involves both parties if you like the gender-based rants Subscribe for more fuck faces Taking responsibility for their contributions to conflict Most relationship problems aren't entirely one-sided so it no every relationship problem is never one-sided It takes two people to fight You know Like at some point you have to think okay, this doesn't justify people shitties shitties reactions, but like What led your partner to commit to cheating what led her to do this what led him to do that, you know A break in the relationship that's what it is And Like a set of communicating with each other Men won't avoid the fight because they don't want to fight with women because arguing with women is about as pointless As sticking your dick into a fucking basketball of mnemonical cobras and waiting for one of them to bite you you know what I'm saying I Expecting only one person to apologize misses opportunities for mutual growth and other That's what I'm saying like if you expecting the other person to apologize That eliminates the need and that in the year and for mutual growth for you to grow as people And like you acknowledge that nobody's perfect you just because you admit false doesn't make you less of a person That's pretty straightforward Understanding Communication about these patterns is also crucial Couples who can discuss their different approaches to conflict resolution often find ways to honor both partners needs A woman might say I know I hurt you and I'm sorry I also want to do something nice for you because that's how I show love unless you wouldn't Excuse me Let's show in kind of the one-on-one when you take snow responsibility for our faults and immediately blames you for everything Men do this crap too You encounter people who refuse to take any responsibility for their own actions I Constantly blame everyone else is people are called toxic and you don't need them in your life Of this acknowledges both the need for accountability and the desire to rebuild connection The integration solution also involves timing Sometimes immediate apologies are appropriate, but so I get that to a point that does make sense like The need to have Calibility and an emotional and sexual connection And then women with just take accountability for their shitty behavior because They don't want the man to stop providing for them You're way too dependent on men and you're in the sufferable human being if men do the same thing You're way too dependent on getting pussy and you're a Sam I Sometimes emotional repair needs to happen first to create the safety necessary for genuine accountability And that's the truth That is the truth this goes for both women and men 100% Emotional accountability that's the word Understanding when to use which approach requires emotional intelligence through both partners Ultimately the goal is creating relationships where both partners feel heard respected and valued for their natural approaches to conflict resolution While still maintaining standards for honesty and accountability that allow trust to flourish Integration solution reveals that the best relationships combine feminine emotional intelligence with masculine accountability standards When both approaches are valued and appropriately applied Conflicts become opportunities for deeper connection rather than sources of ongoing resentment Understanding why women don't apologize reveals fundamental differences and how the sexes approach conflict Follower we've been doing apologize because they don't want to feel like a piece of shit At the same time they want to feel like they're the superior one and that we could do it all wrong And men do it for the same exact reasons And all that does is create a communication boundary between you and your romantic partner Bility and relationship repair This isn't about right or wrong It's about recognizing that men and women often operate from completely different psychological frameworks that both have evolutionary validity The path forward isn't for women to abandon their natural conflict resolution strategies Or for men to stop valuing accountability Instead both sexes benefit from understanding and integrating the best of both approaches That's 100% my fucking jam. Thank you There's a women and men don't have to stop doing their thing What women and men could benefit from is understanding and valuing each other's approach And then using it as a way to like What's the word I'll get there eventually give me a sentence And Confirmation like not confirmation like What's the word? It's not confirmation is Uh Or at the last minute of the video hold up one second Compromise there we go This guy is 100% correct when you can find that women and men both have an equally shini And that people will use each other and use psychology to fuck with each other You know all you can do is find comp What's you know the word like Fuckin Yeah Confirmation is of the word Compromise when you can compromise and like see the best of both worlds and use that to find Uh perfect solution that suits both of you And that's where communication is key YouTube For women this means developing comfort with appropriate vulnerability And recognizing that genuine apologies often build rather than diminish respect For men this means appreciating the genuine value of emotional repair strategies while maintaining standards for accountability when appropriate The most successful relationships are those where both partners understand these different approaches And create space for both emotional healing and honest accountability When conflicts become opportunities for deeper understanding rather than battles over whose right Relationships can grow stronger through challenges rather than being weakened by them What do you think? Does this match your experience with gender differences in conflict resolution? Share your thoughts in the comments below and remember to subscribe if you found this exploration valuable You Hello everyone welcome back to my Oh There you have it